We all yearn for someone to join ourselves to, inwardly and deeply, but yearning is one thing, allowing it to happen and paying the price for it is something else. Real intimacy is the most scary and demanding thing on the planet. We resist it as much as we invite it.
Sometimes the prison of our own loneliness is self imposed and comes about mainly because of our unwillingness to give up freedom, private possession, self protection and that which is perceived as being cool. It is not so much that we aren't allowed intimacy (because of circumstance, luck, or handicap) but that we do not allow it because of its real cost. - Fr Ron Rolheiser, ronrolheiser.com (click below for full article)